“You feel lonely even though you’re married?”
A common misconception is that all experiences of loneliness dissipate the moment you said I do. While I may wish it were true, it is not.
The apartment feels empty when he’s working. I come home, cook dinner, usually something easy that requires little effort, and try to keep myself busy. If I’m not careful, loneliness will start staring at me from the walls. At other times, in the midst of a kerfuffle, I feel lonely.
My most intense feelings of loneliness came when I moved and found myself in a new place surrounded by strangers. Bravely, I would attend bible studies and go to gatherings without knowing a soul. The drive home was either a relief, that wasn’t too bad, or a tear filled regret, I feel so alone.
The only antidote to loneliness is to keep showing up and reaching out.
Connections won’t happen in a vacuum so don’t hide from others when you are lonely. Instead fight loneliness by continuing to show up and by reaching out to others in friendship.
When was the last time you felt lonely? What comfort/ advice would you give a friend struggling with loneliness?