Complacency sneaks in. I’ve been here before and have known the people surrounding me for over a year.
My attentive curiosity has worn off as the newness of the place and people has worn off. It’s easy to assume I know what there is to know.
Emotional Intelligence is about engagement. See the world with fresh eyes and becoming curious and observant.
Here are some quick tips to living like a pro.
Take a Walk. It doesn’t have to be a long one, but walk around a familiar place: work, coffee shop or even at home. Notice the details and watch the people who inhabit this space with you. Pick up on body language, mood and words. You will be surprised at what you discover. There is always something to learn.
Watch Strangers. I’ve always loved people watching and now I have an excuse. People watching is a great way to test and grow your emotional intelligence. Can you pick up on their mood through their body language? Can you tell what kind of conversation people are having by their hand motions and demeanor? It’s also a great tool for writers. The more we learn about the nuances of human interaction and body language, the more detail we can add to our stories.
Empathize. What would I feel if I was in their shoes? It’s easy to interact with people and not understand them. Empathy paves the way for understanding. How would I feel if that happened to me? Empathy at its best includes understanding why someone is feeling and reacting the way they are, even if it is not how we would react.
Life like a pro. Life is too short not to engage and be curious.